4th rough nighs for your stress-less life

The fourth rough night is energetically assigned to the month of April - the month of change. Rumour has it that April is indecisive due to its changeful and unsteady. Nature and weather are in alteration. Change is the face of this exciting month. 

April and the fourth rough night, both stand for a time of upheaval, it is about change, it is a time of resolution and release, transformation and acceptance. At the beginning this often is a time of turmoil and apparent chaos.

It is a bit like when you declutter your home. You start taking everything out of your cupboards and shelfs and sort it on piles, one pile for everything you want to throw out, one pile what you want to keep, and another one pending for the things you are not sure about yet. To someone coming for a surprise visit while you are decluttering your home it is seemingly in chaos. Only you can see the system behind it and know everything will be even better afterwards. Therefore, you can stay calm amidst the chaos.

Just as well, you can approach the weather events in April because you know that spring and then summer are waiting behind this seeming weather chaos, you trust that everything goes its way and will be well.

It is just the same with all areas in our life. When we experience change and chaos on the outside and manage to stay calm inside, we will experience less stress and more resilience.

One form of letting go is forgiving. It strengthens your inner wisdom and trust in yourself.

Try to forgive everyone and everything. Best start with yourself.

Write everything on pieces of paper which you are going to burn in a fireproof dish somewhere outside again. Read your forgiveness on each piece of paper – best out loud – before you burn it. And while doing so imagine how you let go and say, “I forgive you, and I forgive myself.” As we all know – although I sometimes do not want to believe and/or admit it – it always takes two to tango.

In case you are facing the same difficulties as I do sometimes and it is hard for you at the beginning to forgive, always remember that forgiveness is for you NOT for the other person. Forgiveness takes a huge load of your back, restores your inner peace, reduces stress and strengthens your resilience. I think that’s worth a try.

To forgive does not mean that what happened is right, or that it is okay to happen again, and it does not mean that you are supposed to become best friends with the other person again – only, if you are forgiving yourself. The most important fact to bear in mind might be that often it is already enough to decide to forgive and to do so in your heart. It is not necessary to address the other person involved personally. 

Following you can do the following ritual: